Growing Up' is a one day workshop for mothers and daughters facilitated
by Amrita Hobbs. It is designed to be experienced when the girls
are approaching menarche (the arrival of menstruation). Using story
and song in a safe nurturing environment, Amrita, helps to prepare
the girls for this approaching passage to womanhood. Amrita's passion
is to encourage a more accepting and empowering set of beliefs around
bleeding than is prevalent in our society today. Girls' Growing
up! welcomes the new generation of women into their cycling nature
and into the circle of their sisters.
'After working with hundreds of teenagers through Harmony Holiday
camps, I began to realise that girls had a negative and sometimes
self destructive attitude about themselves. I set about researching
this and through work in schools found that many girls resented
their cycling nature and wanted to be like boys. I realised how
difficult it was to change attitudes about cycling and menstruation,
once the girls had moved into it, and decided that they needed to
be reached earlier. I believe that with embodied education about
the mysteries of womanhood, much of the negativity can be avoided.
From parents feedback the 'Girls Growing Up' workshops succeed in
'The taboo around menstruation is all encompassing. I rediscover
this in just about every programme I run, when girls talk about
their embarrassment or shame around this normal, natural and special
function of their body. I believe this negativity affects our physical
emotional, mental well-being and also our self image. I believe
that there is some correlation between our attitude to our menstrual
cycle and low self esteem, teenage pregnancy, and eating disorders.
Society says that we are to look a certain way, do certain things
and hide the fact that on a monthly basis we are deeply affected
by something that is not only normal, but vital for ongoing human
life on the planet.'
Girls Growing Up! has evolved out of my own research, my connection
with my own cycle and to the power I feel as woman. I take the mums
and daughters on a journey. Through story we weave magic into the
process of growing up. Through our changing bodies we are preparing
ourselves, emotionally, mentally and spiritually for the
onset of puberty and menstruation for growing up! We sing songs
together, eat glorious food. The girls make special mementos to
remind them of the day. The day provides a landmark for the girls
embarking into the mystery of femaleness. There is a ritual and
honoring in a deep sharing between mothers and their daughters.
Many mothers have open and honest communication with their daughters
about bleeding, but many don't. I play an important role in the
workshop at this point. Because of the strategies I use, girls are
able to get an embodied sense of what happens to them when they
cycle - fear, dread and shame are released. Girls are more comfortable
about the changes in their body after attending this workshop.
tell me that the transition for their daughters is smooth and the
attribute this to attending Girls Growing Up! Others tell me their
daughters desired to express themselves in a more feminine way afterwards.
Girls have created special circle time for their friends.They are
prepared not only for their own changes but also to be knowledgeable
and supportive to their friends.
the course was over I felt light hearted, happy to have learnt
more and privileged to be a girl. Closer to my mother and closer
to myself. Linda, (11) London, England
was like nothing I'd ever experienced. The ceremony I had really
felt like a welcoming stage for me. Marja (13) Perth, Australia
was heart-warming to know that there was someone who cared about
children and decided to tell young girls about menstruation so
that they don't get a fright when it happens to them. Sara
(12) Cape Town, SA
I hadn't have come I wouldn't have known how to ask mum. I will
find it easier now. Hana (11) Cape Town, SA
I have experienced something that I don't think I would on a normal
day. It really gave me a chance to connect with my mother. It
really made me confident and ready for when I first menstruate.
Rhannon (12 ) Tilba, NSW, Australia
feel happy. Sarah (10) Blue Mountains, Australia
was very special. I've never been able to be this close to mum
before and I've never been able to talk to her in this way either.
I'll remember it always. Cas (11) Sydney, Australia
thanks for the opportunity to show my daughter of way for women
to be together in total acceptance and support. Jaki, Bellingen,
brought my daughter to Girls Growing up! as a gift for her.
I'm not sure who received the greatest gift. Helen, South
day has been magical, loving, connecting and very rich. The
beauty, the warmth, the love, the femininity, the openness between
three generations of women is awesome. Robin, Fremantle,
felt like today has freed me from old limiting beliefs I've
had about femininity from my mother and grandmother and brought
back the honoring of the female energy and cycle. The sacredness
of sisterhood and women feels like it has been returned to me.
Vicki, Perth, Australia
a Girls Growing Up! programme
you would like to organise a Girls Growing Up! programme in
your community contact
Amrita with your details and she will let you know what
that involves. Amrita is also available to train women to run
this workshop. This is an effective way to prepare girls for
their journey into womanhood . It would be wonderful to have
as many girls as possible experience it. Make
contact if you would like more details.
also A Story about a Girl
one of the powerful stories that Amrita uses in the circle of
See Amrita's book for young people Getting Real ... About Growing Up
Amrita's own website www.amritahobbs.com
of Passage kits will help you understand, honour and celebrate
your life season with conscious ceremonies to honour the important
transitions in your woman's life.
check out the Temple of the Blood
CD, a guided meditation to assist
in reclaiming the power of your bleeding time
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